The oaths: They are quite subjective; if an Aes Sedai believes she is not lying, then the Oath doesn’t stop her. So, that is what was going on in the torturing part of Lord of Chaos . It depends on the psychology of the individual. It’s like spanking a naughty child. Some people regard that as child abuse; some people regard it as reasonable punishment.
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